Bullies, Bullies, Everywhere, and NO one seems to Care
If you have lived anywhere other than a cave, you are aware of or have experienced,
“Bullies, Bullies, Everywhere, and No one seems to Care.”
Bullies on the playground, at home, and in the church,
People you don’t know, people you do, friends, and family are the worst.
It comes out of nowhere with seemingly innocent guise,
Speechless, hurt, no one to protect, nowhere to hide.
Bullies refuse to apologize, acknowledge, or repent,
It’s not THEIR fault, their spleen they had to vent!
Someone MADE them do it, or perhaps a chemical imbalance,
Whatever it was, you must bear their despicable talents.
Sometimes out of anger, Sometimes out of fear,
Most times out of jealousy, sometimes on a dare.
A lot of times out of transference – the Walter Mitty syndrome
(passing on resentment that should have been handled at home).
Verbal assaults, not just once or twice, but almost constantly,
A punching bag receiving snide remarks and taunts – just ugly!
Character assassination, defamation, in the family, church, and all around the town,
No one confronts, questions, or protects, but happily sends it on around.
Not limited to just gangs, criminals, or evil, wicked men,
It’s found in schools, at home, at work; no less among Christians.
The end result is brokenness, death, destroyed homes,
Without sincere repentance, change, restoration remains unknown.
– Dlw 8/12/14 7:30 p.m.
If you couldn’t tell, bullies are on my mind and heart. Bullies, bullies everywhere, and friends have disappeared: in the news, TV, papers, magazines, blogs, schools, homes, neighborhoods, churches. It is epidemic. It hurts, badly.
Our children and young people bear much. There doesn’t appear to be a safe, quiet, place to hide and regroup. There are few who stand up or speak up. I admit, as a young person, I was terrified of having the bullies turn on me, so I didn’t speak up at times when I should have – to my shame. Nor did anyone ever stand up for me.
However, people seem to overlook the ADULTS who are victimized by bullies. This is really concerning. I have met far too many adults who are bearing abuse that they should not have to bear. And the worst of it? Others are standing by, listening in, NOT speaking up and confronting the bullies, nor protecting the bullied. The stories that I have heard would fill a library.
Personal experiences aside, I have heard painful stories from acquaintances, friends, neighbors, students, pastors, and co-workers of brutal attacks from the ones that were considered “safe,” considered “friends.” The things said, the behaviors, are unbelievable. The devastation left behind is awful to behold.
Everyone seems to be talking about ways and means of protection from bullies, but they focus pretty much on passive tactics. Turn OFF the cell phones, the texting, and all social media. Good ones, for sure, and I totally agree with those things.
It is true that technology has created a bedlam paradise for bullies, leaving people (children especially) with no safety zones; however, I blame it more on the lack of what the Good Book calls “good men” standing up to evil. James says, “He who knows to do the right thing and doesn’t do it, to him it is sin.” (James 4:17). Edmund Burke’s statement is so true: “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”
We need MEN (and women and children) to stand firmly courageous and do the right thing. To confront, to speak up, to GO get help from someone who CAN and WILL stop the bullies. Also, to insist upon a real and sincere apology from bullies, the recanting of lies (as publicly recanted as was told), and repentance (a complete and permanent U-turn of behavior).
Too often, bullies behave as if multitudinous good actions (after being “caught”) will substitute for apologies and should automatically receive full forgiveness and restoration. Unfortunately, many will allow it because they are already beaten down by bad behavior, and they just want it over with. “Let bygones be bygones.” However, if this happens, the bullies have received what they want and will continue with bad behavior. It may be hard, it may bring more sorrow and harassment from unthinking and unknowing people (how DARE you not forgive and forget!), but the bullied must stand firm. The sincere apology for the offense(s) and complete repentance MUST come first. Only then can there be the possibility for forgiveness and restoration.
If you are the bullied, you do not deserve it. If you are a bystander and hear or see bullies in action, please step in – you have more power than you think; you are in the right. If you are a church member and hearing or seeing another church member (or your pastor) being bullied, definitely confront and stop the behavior. If you have been the recipient of some sort of “gossip,” please go to the one spoken about and discover the truth. Stopping bullies, bringing forgiveness and restoration, will take the firm stand and courage of us all.